When you tell your friends about a partner, what do you say?

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I lost my last romance over this issue. Sigh, I miss her.

There’s a tendency to want to talk out your relationship problems with other people. I’ve learned that this is always bound to be a futile endeavor. They won’t be able to see both sides of it and their help will always be extremely limited.

Unless you have no ideas of your own at all about how to resolve a particular problem, don’t even bother trying to vent or otherwise complain about a romantic partner. Keep it to genuinely-felt praise. If you don’t have anything nice to say about someone you’re involved with, why are you with them?

If you absolutely need to talk or vent, do it with someone you trust not to go blabbing to other people, and always do it over the phone or in person, never through text. It will eventually get read by someone that’s not you or the other person. Probably your lover, as was the case with me.

Say nice things about your lover, both to them and to other people. Give positivity out to the world, and chances are you’ll get to enjoy it in return.