My boyfriend told me he doesn't find Asian people attractive. Is this racist?

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A few things to unpack here. You conflated two things which really should be kept separate. You said he doesn’t consider them attractive, and then turned around and said that he doesn’t find them beautiful. Those are two different things.

I am not attracted to every beautiful woman I meet. Personally, I consider every woman beautiful in her own way. But I certainly don’t want to stick my penis in all of them!

Another thing you should realize is that beauty is not reflective on a person’s worth as a human being. If I don’t find someone beautiful or attractive, it in no way says anything about what I think of them as a person. It refers to physical qualities and nothing more. Just because I don’t want to stick my pecker in somebody doesn’t make them a bad person.

Racism, on the other hand, involves judgments that, by definition, are supposed to reflect back on a person’s worth as a human being. If I’m racist to you, that means that I think you’re worth less than people of my ‘preferred’ race.

So, while it’s certainly not nice to think of Asians as lacking in the beauty department, unless he comes up with some judgments that really are intended to degrade their worth, I’d stop short of calling that racist.

As a personal request to you, I would ask you to try to unhook beauty from self-worth. I always find it sad when women do this, because it causes them a lot of unnecessary unhappiness. You are wonderful for many many reasons, not just because you’re beautiful.