Should I avoid building a romantic relationship with a couple who wants me to not see other new people (see details)?

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In such a thing as a polyamorous relationship, there is no established body of wisdom and advice to draw on. There’s no book to read, there’s no way you can ask Aunt Trudy for advice to see if there’s something you’re missing. You have to make it all up as you go along. You have to seek out and find answers yourself.

That’s what makes them so difficult. Jealousy is one of those irreducible constants of love. To get close to someone is to want to possess them. Different people want to possess in different ways. Trying to take the messiness out of romance often kills it. Nobody wants to be possessed in ways they don’t want to be possessed, but they want to possess others the way they want to possess.

These wants never 100% line up completely. This is why you have to be patient, accommodating, yet very firm with people who want things from you that you can’t give them. This doesn’t mean to avoid connection and romance. It means getting very clear with yourself and with others exactly what you want. You don’t have the luxury of an established tradition of dating anymore. You can’t lean on the Bible or your family or friends.

Good luck. I’m rooting for you!