I don't want a title for our relationship but would like to know where we’re going. We've been seeing each other for 7 months and I just want to make sure we aren't wasting each other's time. Am I asking for too much?

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If he says he’s not emotionally attached, then your relationship is going nowhere. Eventually he’ll find someone he can get emotionally attached to that loves him back and then he’ll leave you for her.

Whether it’s a waste of time or not is really up to you. Personally, my understanding is that if you want to learn how to dance, you need a dance partner. Not getting what you want out of a person is painful, but dealing with the pain is better than dealing with loneliness.

This definitely runs counter to the conventional wisdom regarding relationships, which states that as long as you’re hung up on somebody that can not love you back, then you can’t move on and you’re just delaying happiness.

I disagree with this logic, but I understand the reasoning behind it. Learning how to navigate all the subtle boundaries and weirdnesses of relationships is worth the pain, in my opinion. It gives you character and emotional fluidity that will serve you well when you finally do find that better partner that actually fulfills your needs.

The nice thing is that you can turn the tables on him and find a guy you really like. As you get more comfortable in a casual relationship, you’ll find yourself more open emotionally for a new connection.

Good luck. I’m rooting for you!