I’ve witnessed my wife talking seriously with other men at our favorite club. How can she say she loves me and wants to stay with me?

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A2A, tough topic, but I like those, so it’s cool.

The thing about clubs that people really don’t understand is that they’re venues for playing. What playing is is really up to the people involved, and their SOs. Playing at a club can be anything from talking / flirting to dancing / grinding. I’ve been made out with before by a girl right in front of her boyfriend. He didn’t seem happy about it but didn’t do anything to stop it.

She made sure to add me on Facebook and I found out before deleting her that eventually they got married.

So, you saw her talking seriously. About what? What sort of conversation can you have with a guy you only know in a club that could possibly build a real enough connection to where it supplants your marriage? The conversations might have looked serious, but they were just as much playing as that girl making out with me in a bar was.

If you want a strong enough connection to your wife that she doesn’t feel the need to play with other guys at clubs, then you need to understand what she’s getting out of it and then step in to provide that need yourself. But you’re already the guy she relies on enough to where she was willing to marry you in order to keep you in her life. So give yourself a little credit here.