How do I stay happy in a relationship if my partner is always negative and resentful?

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It sounds like your relationship is not working. I’ve written a guide for introducing, escalating, and resolving conflict in a relationship, you can find it here:

Vincent Guidry's post in Relationship Thoughts

So, there are three stages to resolving a disagreement. The one you’re in right now is that you haven’t been heard yet. Your boyfriend literally doesn’t even know there’s a problem. You need to devise a strategy for making him hear you and take you seriously.

Once you have been heard, the next step is to be understood. You are understood when your boyfriend realizes there’s a problem and knows what he has to do to resolve it.

Unfortunately even knowing that there’s a problem and what your desired resolution is, may not make him all that enthusiastic about solving the problem. I call this being listened to. This is when you’re finally on the same page and are working together to resolve the problem.