How can a conventionally unattractive but socially adept male get female attention?

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Yeah, I agree with Alice, either you’re socially adept or you’re not. I suspect you’re actually asking a different question.

Getting female attention is easy. Girls are all around you, just talk to one. You don’t even have to be socially adept. I was never adept in school, yet even I found it easy. See girl, go talk to girl. Can’t get any simpler or easier than that.

You’re probably asking how to get girls to be attracted to you. If you’re unattractive then what that means is, you can’t count on a sizable cross-section of the girls you meet to be attracted to you. You have to make up for this by putting in more work.

The first thing you’re going to want to do is start working out and looking your best. Attractive people can get away with letting themselves go to a certain extent, but unattractive people cannot get away with looking like a slob. You’d be surprised at just how malleable appearance is once you start working on it.

Another thing you want to work on is your emotional maturity. Be open to new experiences and open to your feelings. Talk about feelings with other people. Be honest about what you want and ask other people for advice. Not all of it will be good, but having conversations that are more difficult than you’re used to having will make you more attractive.

In the long run, emotional maturity is way more important than physical attractiveness. Naturally, kids only see appearance so you need to pay attention to it. But once you get past all that, it’s all about navigating and negotiating the emotions of relationships. Learning how to do that is probably the sexiest thing possible.