I married my best friend and I just admire him as a person, but I don't love him. What should I do?

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Okay, so you married him because you wanted a change from your old life. You achieved that break, and now you have a new life. You can’t really go back to your old one, it’s gone. Even if you got a divorce and went back it wouldn’t be the same. Plus you’d probably still have the problems you had before with dating. So not only will you feel out of place, you still will be no closer to finding love.

My advice to you is to try. Work on yourself and ask what it is that you find attractive in a guy. See if you can get your husband to work towards that role. Is it a big strong guy who can throw you around? A soft, sweet gentleman? A romantic Romeo? Think about what you want, and ask your husband if he can be that person, even if it’s just in the bedroom.

Americans seem to want their sex lives to not require any work. It’s a shame because it leads us to marry the wrong people. Just because the sex works doesn’t mean everything else will work too. There’s no guarantee you’ll be any happier in a relationship that has that easy, effortless spark you’re looking for.

Good luck!