How do you lower the ego of beautiful women?

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A2A, this is a silly question borne out of ignorance.

You think women act the way they do is because they are egotistical. But in reality you only think that way because a) you don’t understand women, and b) you don’t understand ego.

The reason you don’t understand these things is because you were taught, through television, your parents and peers, that this is the way things worked. But things do not work that way, in fact, they often work exactly the opposite of the way we think they do.

If you understood ego, then you would understand that nearly 100% of the time, any time you say someone else has ego, then it is your own ego that you are displaying. This is because of a psychological phenomenon called projection. What projection boils down to is the fact that we never see another person’s complexity for what it is, instead we take the parts of it that we don’t understand and assume that parts that we do understand are the reason why.

We know how ego works in ourselves, so when other people act in ways that we would call egotistical in ourselves, then they must be egotistical. It’s a logical flaw that’s easy to make. It’s the same with just about every character judgment we make about another person. If we see a person as good, we are seeing the goodness in our own character, not anything that really relates to them. You don’t know them, you don’t know where that behavior you like is arising from. They could be deceiving you.

Of course, none of this psychological mumbling is answering the question you wanted me to answer. Well, if you want to interact with a beautiful woman, you have to a) get her attention, and b) capture her interest.

Neither of these things are easy, especially to someone who doesn’t understand women or psychology. The psychology of projection creates the situation where every single attractive woman is faced with an onslaught of unwanted social interaction from idiots looking to break through her walls. It’s a feedback loop. Ignorant idiots try to talk to her, she takes the same logical and reasonable steps anybody would to cut down on unwanted attention, more guys try to break through.

If you could work within the bounds of the way she wants to be interacted with, then not only will she give you the time of day, but she’ll be really happy to. She may even give you a chance to date her, which you’ll probably screw up the first 10 times you try.

But, if you fall into the same psychological pattern that thousands of other guys fall into, and try to interact with her in the same stupid way that everybody else is, then your actions won’t even cause a blip on her radar. You have no idea how many idiots try to contact her every day. That’s what being attractive means. Don’t be one of them.