Will I never find love. All my friends are getting married or engaged to their soulmates and I don't even have a girlfriend. What is wrong with me?

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Romance is possible, even probable, for you.

What you should do at this point is to examine your daily habits and and start to work a regular source of people-meeting into your schedule. It does not have to be every day in the beginning but it really should be at least a few times a week.

You should use a technique that I use to accomplish difficult goals. I call it ‘injecting time’. If there is something you want that looks impossible, say a girlfriend, break it down into logical chunks, then work out ways to apply the resource of time towards accomplishing them.

Whenever you run into a snag, inject more time.

For example, you have an idea that if you can talk to one girl a week, eventually you’ll be able to ask one out. So you get started and find that asking a girl out just isn’t happening.

Well, instead of giving up, you simply break down and chunk out that intermediate goal. But you don’t know how to break down the goal of asking a girl out. This is where the technique gets its name. You “inject time” into the situation. You get into the situation, say you start talking to a girl, and you take the pressure off yourself mentally and give yourself all the time you need to work out the issue keeping you from asking her out.

I’ve found this technique highly useful for just about anything that we find psychologically hard. Having trouble starting conversations with girls? Get close to them and inject time until you can just have one conversation. Once you have one, inject time until you can have another. Eventually you’ll have a repeatable process that will allow you to start conversations with women in pretty much any situation.

The time you’re injecting has two purposes, it takes the psychological pressure off, and gives you the space to learn. If you’re not learning little things about yourself, then every instance you inject time into will be the same. But the brain is kinda magic, if you do the same thing over and over again, the brain will start to learn all by itself. Eventually the block will clear up.

It’s a fancy way of saying “just put yourself out there,” but I hope it gives you some framework for thinking about this kind of problem.