I’ve learned over the years to not second-guess the things that I want. If you want a girl as a friend and not sleep with her, then just go find one and do that. It’s not wrong at all. Don’t let anyone shame you into believing that your desires are wrong.
It’s the same people that would tell you you’re not sufficiently masculine enough because you don’t want to be sexually active that will emotionally manipulate women into having sex with them and tell themselves they are awesome for it.
One causes a lot more grief, pain, and suffering than the other. One way of life leads to abortions, cheating, divorce, and domestic violence.
The other just waits a little longer before starting healthier relationships.