From a man's perspective, what's the point of having kids if the mother can leave with them at any time and still make him pay child support?

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I want kids and expect to have them.

I believe that marriages can be worked on and that nobody leaves a working marriage. I’ve seen too many marriages and relationships fail and the worst outcomes happen years after both people have stopped loving, caring for, and even being civil to each other. It never happens overnight.

The biggest problem is that couples choose each other too soon. They fail to ascertain compatibilities and incompatibilities. Their relationships don’t manage conflict well and leave little recourse but huge fights. Those huge fights steadily erode people’s energy and eventually the marriage totally fails.

If I enter into a marriage and the marriage doesn’t work out, I expect everything will be properly talked out beforehand and a negotiated settlement will be presented by our lawyers to the judge so there won’t be any surprises. There’s just too much at stake to screw around.

Most people I see are incapable of dealing with conflict and so shut down or go scorched-earth. I am not like that, and that is why the prospect of divorce does not scare me. I would no more leave my ex-wife with my kids financially unsupported than I would chop off my own arm.