How do you deal with the insecure feelings when guys approach your girl?

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I don’t get insecure when guys approach my girl. I don’t get insecure when my girl goes out on dates with other guys. (we’re not exclusive) What I’ve gotten insecure about in the past was over the idea that she just might not really be into me. What did I do when I felt insecure? I talked to her. I know it’s really difficult to find ways to talk about deep things when you’re with someone where it’s usually fun and casual and cool.

But if you don’t talk to her about it, then you’re neglecting to do the only thing that you could possibly do to resolve your feelings.

One thing my lady does that I don’t even ask her to do is to tell me about these dates. Nothing makes me more secure in my primacy in her mind than what these other losers do on their dates with her. One guy bought her an $800 brand new iPhone for her birthday, just because.

They beg for the tiniest scraps of her attention. They think that just getting her attention is all that’s needed. Then they think that getting her to let them buy her dinner is all that’s needed.

Look, if a hot girl is spending time with you, that means you are offering her something she can’t get anywhere else. Everything else is just a game. The guys chasing her and flirting with her, it’s a game. Women let men twist themselves up into tight little balls and then leave them with nothing.

My lady was telling me the other day about this guy she was on the phone with from her job. She was just talking to him when all of a sudden he had an orgasm! I tease her about it all the time, we’ll be on the phone and I’ll just start screaming.

Insecurity comes from you, but it can only really be resolved by talking it out with the other person it revolves around. It doesn’t even have to be a heavy discussion. Just realizing how stupid the game is was enough for me.