What's a correct way for a boy who thinks a girl is cute to start a conversation with them?

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I’ve approached women in the past and done reasonably well with it.

The problem with approaches is, a lot of guys do them, so it’s difficult to stand out from all the other guys doing them. It’s like trying to become a rockstar by showing up at your favorite band’s studio and asking if you can play harmonica for them.

So even if you’re successful, you’re still only one of maybe a dozen guys that have done the exact same thing in just that week. Good luck turning that number you just got into a date. Women often will hand out their number like candy to trick-or-treaters, then never answer their phone.

If you look like Brad Pitt, or have more money than God and aren’t afraid to throw it around, by all means, capitalize on your good fortune. But if you want to have success as an average joe, you need to learn how to avoid numbers games. And approaching women is absolutely a numbers game.

Now, if you’re talking about “warm” intros, that I can help you with. If you’re a friend of a friend, or you’re there at an exclusive event like a company get-together, attractive women can let down their guard a little bit. But only a little bit. You have to convince them to actually become interested in you.

The way you do it is by showcasing personality and verifying compatibility. A good way to do both at the same time is to talk about previous relationships. Once the boring chit-chat is out of the way, you can casually drop a reference to an old girlfriend. A lot of the times they’ll pick up on it and talk about their old relationship, this is a convenient time to mention a current boyfriend, so they’ll usually do that if they have one. If they don’t you should assume that they’re either single or they want you to believe that they’re single, so proceed appropriately.

As you’re talking about relationships, you’ll have the opportunity to display what you value in them. She’ll either like what you have to say, in which case she’ll start opening up and asking you more questions, and really getting into the conversation, or she’ll just keep it casual and friendly.

If you do this right, she’ll be bugging you for your Facebook deets and phone number.

But again, even if you do everything right, you’re still one of potentially a dozen or more suitors at any given time. Last time this worked for me, I got zero return contact the next day. She was so insistent on exchanging numbers, but then never texted.

Dating pretty girls is hard.