Why do we attract who we attract? Based on LOA

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When I was younger I used to get a lot of gay guys hitting on me. After awhile I had the insight that I was putting out a certain energy that was drawing them like flies. Eventually I was able to isolate that aspect of my personality and cut it out.

Now that I think about it with the benefit of hindsight, I realize it was a sort of naive openness to experience. I wanted to believe that people were more interesting than they were. I would sit there and listen to these gay guys, not realizing that everything they were saying was just an effort to try to get into my pants.

Once I got a handle on the pattern, I started noticing it more and more. And I’d just stop talking to them or putting any more effort into the interaction. I’d ‘freeze them out’. Eventually they just stopped bugging me.

People that fancy themselves as predators wind up developing really strong noses for who is ‘prey’. You have to learn how to recognize them and shut them down as soon as they start plying their bullshit on you. You have to sharpen those ‘spidey senses’ because they’ve sharpened their noses to find you, someone who isn’t so attuned to their bullshit that they’ll just immediately stop talking to them.