How should a girlfriend feel if her boyfriend doesn't want any traces of (having) a girlfriend on his Facebook?

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Really depends on why. The girl I’m dating doesn’t even want me as her Facebook friend. And we’ve been dating for a few years now. People have different ideas of what Facebook is and how it fits into their lives. Me personally, it’s a way for me to keep up with friends that I don’t see very often.

Other people treat it as more of a public persona. They want to carefully curate what their friends see of them. This guy of yours might have his entire family on his Facebook. He might have had a really bad experience when he put his last girlfriend up on there. Some people have really ugly families that they can’t really escape. He may want to save you from that.

I was just randomly commenting on a friend-of-a-friend’s Facebook thread recently. The thread invited you to go search for “your name plus X” and post the first thing that comes up. Naturally a lot of times that’s going to return some dirty posts. So I thought it was fair game. Like 2 seconds after I post the image, the friend I knew pops up with “don’t you think that’s a bit inappropriate to be posting on my cousin’s page?” like I’m some kind of pervert or something.

I immediately ripped it down and messaged my friend apologizing. She said that her cousin was a Jehovah’s Witness and she’s just doing damage control before her family sees it. They have a private group where they post those kinds of things. I thanked my lucky stars that I don’t have to deal with that kind of crap.

The only real way to know is to have a heart-to-heart with him. If you can’t even talk about it, that says way more about how strong your bond is than how he configures his Facebook. It doesn’t bother me at all that my lady doesn’t want me on her Facebook. It just makes it a little more difficult to share things with her, that’s all.