Is confidence in the dating arena the same as not being afraid of rejection?

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Not so much. Confidence is in how you carry yourself, what you let get to you.

In everything you do regarding women, there’s a confident way and a not-so-confident way. Generally what you should do is figure out what you want to do, then figure out a way to do it more confidently, and then do it that way. This is a reliable way to build confidence and keep pushing yourself out of your comfort zone.

For example, a question I answered recently had a guy tapping a girl on the shoulder and asking her to dance. My reply was that he should have approached from the front. Not only does it not take her by surprise, but it also displays more confidence than tapping on the shoulder.

Confidence involves being more honest, more up-front, more relaxed. If you’ve never approached a girl before, then maybe the idea of just walking up to her, smiling, introducing yourself, then telling her she’s pretty and asking her if she wants to dance in an easy-going way seems impossible. All you can do today is to tap her from behind and asking her in a neutral tone of voice rather than an easy-going one to dance.

Just doing it at all is better than not doing it, but if you can, you should work on doing it better. As you get better and more confident, you get rejected less, and when it does come, it stings less.