How do I deal with women who tell me that I am out of their league because I am short, mediocre looking, and my socioeconomic status is far below them? How do I accept the reality and still be happy with myself?

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Build your self worth on something other than how women see you.

The first girl I ever asked out laughed at me while telling me no. After the sting wore off I realized that I was really no better or worse off than before. What I didn’t realize at the time was that I was actually better off. I’d gotten over a sticking point in my life. I realized that asking women out was easy. You just walk up to them and ask them.

Whatever they say didn’t really have any bearing on me. Why? Because of what I said in my first sentence. My sense of self worth matters not a single bit on what other people think of me. It never has and it never will. It doesn’t stop rejection from stinging, but it doesn’t stop me from trying, either.

Find things you like about yourself and spend your time expressing those parts of yourself. At the time I got that first rejection, I liked to read a lot and play video games. So I just went and did that until I got over it. I would lose myself in the stories.

And then, when another girl would come around, I’d go after her, but try something different. Eventually at that school I found a nice, beautiful girl. I didn’t ask this one out. I’d met her at a party, and we were talking, and something just felt right, so I grabbed her and put her on my lap. She stayed there all night, and we spent most of our lunchtimes that year together. It was simple, easy, and fun, just what I needed in a girl and still need.

Don’t beat yourself up over rejection. Just do things differently next time.